I’m Not Dating Because Ghanaian Men Are Unfaithful – Wendy Shay. This piece of writing got me thinking and researching about relationships and whether Wendy Shay should be complaining in the first place.
Coming events cast their shadows indeed. Very often, men say, women are not faithful, women also say men are not faithful but the truth of the matter is that both men and women are not faithful but at the same time there are faithful men and women. You are definitely likely to attract your kind or type in relationships.
Just as there are men and women who have found faithful spouses, there are others who have found none.
Research always helps. Wendy Shay, I don’t know the kind of research you did but this is my findings worth reading.
The research-based truth is that,
“The average woman will kiss 15 men, enjoy two long-term relationships and have her heartbroken twice before she meets ‘The One’, a study has revealed.”
There are as many breakups and heartbreaks just as there are many men and women who are in relationships with wrong motives with their hearts at the exit point while they keep smiling to their partners.
Women must love twice, be with one ex-partner they finally find Mr. Right who is also not a perfect saint.
In comparison, men face being stood up twice and having six one night stands before they meet their ideal partner.
These are the findings in The Rosie Project as a man went on a quest to find a perfect wife. Are you on a journey to find a perfect husband? Keep reading.’
The Author Graeme Simsion holds the view that the path to finding a perfect partner is not just long but also rocky.
He argues that, all the
“bad and distasteful occurrences such as mismatches, awkward one night stands leave those seeking love feeling Oh no, they aren’t going to find that perfect match.”
If you are not finding the perfect match, start being perfect because, in relationships, like poles attract and unlike poles also attract.
The same research also found out that, while 94% of women believe in true love, just 88% of men feel the same way.
All women including Wendy Shay must ask the guys they are dating or will be dating why they are in the relationship.
Some may just be around because of the honey pot. Once they are able to scoop enough honey out, they exit and leave you in pain.
The men must also ask the same question. Some people hold the view that; they will never enter into new relationships with more than 30% of their hearts due to previous experiences.
Your new boyfriend or girlfriend, fiancé or fiancée most of the times is someone’s ex.
This means one of you in your current relationship has been in a previous relationship and has a certain perception that may impact your current relationship if you fail to realize that, all relationships are not the same.
There is a chance that either the person was not faithful or you were not faithful or both of you were not faithful in previous relationships and ended up meeting each other.
No matter the combination, the past experiences could come to play in your new-found love by two old love birds that escaped from one relationship into another.
Wendy Shay, let me remind you and other like-minded women in Ghana and other women and gentlemen that, if you feel men are not faithful, or all women are the same, you better start examining yourself and why you enter into relationships.
That may be the beginning of true revelations about yourself and how you might have contributed badly to the relationships that never worked.
Think you are always right, think you are always the good one, think you are an angel and paint the others black. You are not going to get it right.
There is no perfect man or woman here, everyone is fallible, and the characters we aspire to and see in telenovelas are a fallacy. You have to make sacrifices if you want your relationships to work.
“I listen to a lot of Females and I have couple of friends I talk to, and I have done my research and they all tell me the same thing”, she stated clearly.”
These were captured in a news article. Ask all the ladies who told you this how many ex-boyfriends they have.
Check your lifestyles and what you want from relationships and keep friendships for long, I mean long before you make a decision if you want to move that friendship to the next level.
How many of our ladies and guys complaining of the unfaithfulness of the other can be a friend of a lady or a man for at least six months without any sexual advances or any form of romance? We are all gullible because we think sexual relationship as soon we jump into a new relationship.
All that glitters is not gold, hold your guns, delay love affair, grow friendships into dates, develop better truthful acquaintanceship, dates and gradually know the characters of each other as friends before you enter into relationships.
The truth of the matter is that many young people have sex a few days or weeks into a new relationship then, the other decides to exit.
This is followed by the chorus “All men are the same” “All women are the same” It is a fallacy. Today’s men and ladies are playing each other.
They are playboys and girls and they don’t like themselves” Na who cause am?
I stand to be corrected
Source: Wisdom Hammond | Newsghana24.com