Relationship Tips (volume 1)
Relationships are not to be compared, and the worst thing is to compare you partner (he/she) to your ex or someone.
Most relationships fail because they always start with laying with themselves, having sex with your partnerdoesn’t strengthen a relationship, it’s made for couples not dating partners.
There are specific points to check before moving deeply in love.
There are some questions to ask yourself and and certain ways to find out if you are in the right path in a relationship that can lead to marriage not only that but that can last forever.
QUESTIONS
1. Why are you dating or looking for a partner?
▫️You are searching for partner because you’re tired of your single life, there’s no vision no purpose for making a choice. Then you need to sit down and think.
2. Where is this relationship leads us to?
▫️ You must see the end at the beginning (marriage or fornication) before taking the step in a relationship.
3. Do you love yourself enough in a way that your love never depends on someone else?
▫️ You can only give what you have, how much do you love yourself? Can you propose to yourself if your partner behave the same way like you?
Ways to find out
When you meet a guy/lady don’t just start praying asking God if he/she is the right person, prayers comes for completion, A great Prophet of God, Prophet Isaiah Wealth said, I quote : “Decision is more powerful than prayer”
Prayers are to support your decision. When you meet a person you’re attracted too, calculate, give yourself 2 to 4 years. Where will you be? Do you see yourself together loving each other, married or still dating or not even together, then pray. You can get get your answers easily after doing that calculation.
Men (guys) are attracted firstly by the beauty but the attitude keep then along. The attraction shouldn’t lead you to laying down, you need to overcome that step by self control focusing on the 2 first questions, otherwise you will end up laying all attracted ladies, remember your body is the temple of the HolySpirit.
The mistake we make at the beginning of a relationship is that, we think the behavior of the partner we are going out with can change or we can change him/her when you settle down, that is deception number, you cannot change a person, if your partner is not ready to submit and learn you can not force him/her to do so even been together, it is the worst decision to take.
Relationship is made up with US : Understanding and Sacrifice
If you want love, get ready to understand your partner and sacrifice also. Communication is the only one way to sustain a relationship, I will talk more about that in the next volume.