There’re FIVE Most important THINGS YOU MUSTN’T BE CONFUSED ABOUT IN A RELATIONSHIP.
A relationship without purpose doesn’t have a future.
1) WHAT, WHAT AM I AROUND YOU(IDENTITY)
After six months of calling somebody “my love,” “my world,” and “my destiny,” “my lion,” “my king,” etc. and throwing “I love you” and “I love you too” back and forth like table tennis, and you still can’t place a hand on what is going on, then there is a problem. My dear sex doesn’t perfect or prove the strength of a relationship. You will end up sleeping with many just to prove yourself.
SEEK CLARITY now, before you ask someone tomorrow, “What are we?” And what do you see or think anytime you’re admiring me or looking at me? and they will reply to you that “we are nothing but Pencils in the hand of the creator.” I can see a beautiful samsel that I feel like swallowing, all these no with no promises nor expectation after 5 abortions. You agree still there thinking or love and future.
2) WHY THE RELATIONSHIP, WHY DID YOU COME IN MY LIFE? (MOTIVE)
Even before the relationship starts, settle tthe”WHY“.
Is it love? Is it pipity? Is it friendship with profit? Or is it lust?
Is it for friendship or marriage or for fun?
If there’re questions, I always ask people who seek counselling, it’s “Do you understand him/her?”, “Do you love him/her?” and “Does he/she love you”
If No, then Why are you/they doing it?
Relationship is Understanding and Sacrifice : U.S
3) WHERE IS IT GOING. COULD YOU SEE ME BEEN YOUR WIFE/HUSBAND IN FUTURE? (DESTINATION)
The relationship is going, but you don’t know where it is going. After 3 years, Bro Bernard and Sis Maame Yaa, dey play.
A JOURNEY without a DESTINATION is most likely going to end up as a WASTE OF TIME.
LADIES, Fear any young man [BOY] who can not answer these questions “Where is this relationship headed?” “Do you see US getting married?”
Let me say this you are dating him, you don’t know any of his, relatives ( father, mother, sisters, or brothers) 1 to 3 years even the pastor that is your spiritual father is not aware. What are you doing? He never seeks to see your parents also, and you’re happy staying in his house washing, cooking, etc. Hummmm!
Statements like “I don’t know for now, let’s see how it goes,”and “I will definitely meet your parent when I am ready 😉.” You don’t know for now, but you want me to be waiting, TILL WHEN? Ask him/her.
And YOUNG MEN, before you start pestering any lady for a relationship, answer this question.
“Where do I want it to end?” I am ready to lead, protect, care, provide, support, and love? as the Bible stated that a man must love his wife.
If you’re not ready for all these, enjoy your single life. Don’t because you’re feeling lonely or just for sexual histories.
4) WHEN HEN ARE YOU COMING TO MY PARENTS? MY PASTOR? (TIMEFRAME)
Many ladies I’ve known and heard tell me each time they ask their ‘fiancees’ when he intends to “do something/take a step”, the replies are usually one of the following
- Don’t rush me (when you were rushing her to accept your proposal , ana 🙄)
- I’m not ready yet (and you asked her out, soldier ant bite you there)
- I want to make money first (while Aunty is growing old, tomorrow you’ll now dump her for someone younger)
As an adult, date with a time frame in mind. Don’t date as if you’re immortal. Are you from Egypt from Pharaoh’s family? Or you inherit long life from Abraham and Sarah.
5) DO YOU WANT TO SPEND THE REST OF YOUR LIFE WITH THIS PERSON? (CONVICTION)
Be sure you actually intend to marry the person you accept/ choose to date. Do you see a wife/husband when you are around her/him.
I mean, as a lady/Guy, for example, how can you be accepted and be dating a Lady/Guy you don’t plan to marry? What if he proposes tomorrow?
I leave you with these words by Prophet Isaiah Mac Wealth
“Wife you came to age/accelerateme not to drown me down”
SEEK CLARITY IN THAT YOUR RELATIONSHIP. GOD BLESS
(HL. Sheriff .)